Trans Visibility and Partnership

It’s late, but I feel like I should acknowledge that today is Trans Day of Visibility. I feel like there is this expectation for everyone within the community to make a social media post acknowledging it, so I was hesitant to do so. I even sat down with my partner and had the discussion of how it is expected of us, so neither of us wants to do it. It felt inauthentic, because it was expected of us, and for her being trans is central to her being her authentic self.

So why am I writing this? I feel it is important to acknowledge. My partner is a trans woman, though when I see her all I see is woman. She does identify as trans, but in our discussion tonight explained that while she is proud of who she is, and being trans, all she wants is to be seen as a woman. She wants me to not have to correct people who misgender her in public, she hates feeling othered. I don’t blame her, and I correct people, because she doesn’t want to. She came out about a year ago now, so is still coming in to her own. So it has been my privilege to advocate for her, and stand up for her and who she is, when she feels she cannot.

Her story is not mine though, so I will leave that for her to tell. What I will tell is my story with her. We have had our share of normal relationship challenges, her gender has never played in to that. We have had our share of, not so typical challenges. Those…